Sunday, November 15, 2009
ALONE
Well ever since i switched to Islam I have felt closer to God which is where everyone needs to be and closer to my husband which is also great....but i have felt away from everyone else...My life is so different now and lately I have been feeling that change more. It feels good and bad...I moved to a new city so I dont really have any friends to just talk to and my old friends are just not.... hmmm how do i say it without being mean or rude or disrespectful....they are not the best thing for me anymore i guess you could say...I have been needing someone that is going through the same things as me or understands what it is like to marry a man from another country that has a different culture than you...so I was on my facebook and one of Aziz's cousins asked to be my friend and I looked at his pics and he is married to an american girl so i went to her facebook and asked to be her friend and I read her comments and stuff and she is in the USA and he is in Morocco so she is loney and missing him...one day she was online and she started talking to me and I swear we talked for 2 hours and we have so much in common from both being married to moroccans to the kind of movies and books we read to everything...I had the best time and I finally have a new friend/cousin to talk to...Thank You Allah for sending me this new friend...insha Allah we grow close as sisters someday!!
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its normal. When I became Muslim I was on an iman high and loving it. my friends and best friends abandoned me. Wouldn't pick up my calls, wouldn't return my calls removed me from their facebook account. What you are going through is a test.
ReplyDelete...Bear with patience whatever befalls you...." (Qur'an 31:17) and "Be not sad, surely Allah is with us." (Qur'an 9:40)
Our Prophet (pbuh) said: "Verily, if Allah loves a people, He makes them go through trials. Whoever is satisfied, for him is contentment, and whoever is angry upon him is wrath." [Tirmidhi]
After hardship comes ease sister
I know exactly how you feel. While my non-Muslims friends have all been understanding and wonderful, there is a distance comes from the kind of activities they stay involved in and we stay away from. I remember the first party invitations I had to turn down because there would be drinking and stuff, and then of course they stopped inviting me altogether which made sense but nonetheless made me feel lonely. Well, I was just talking to my husband about this two nights ago too- how I sometimes feel lonely here in Morocco with no friends which is why blogging helps me to connect with other ladies, especially since he works all day and he understood completely. Well, we too sister have a lot in common being married to Moroccans and Muslimahs. Unfortunately, I'm not on facebook, but I would be so happy to chat and get to know you more, and insha'Allah become another one of your friends. It's too bad all the American ladies married to Moroccans live so far apart in the US or we could all form a great big club and always be together...haha! Well, I hope we can talk soon other than leaving comments on each others blogs...let me know any options other than facebook for chatting with you if you want (and finally I will tell you my real name then too!)
ReplyDeleteI'm so happy for your new friendship. Sometimes you need someone who has more in common with your situation. If Aziz keeps treating you like his queen you will have a very blessed marriage :-)
ReplyDeleteAsalaamu alaikum,
ReplyDeleteAlhamdulillah you found someone to talk with that is "family" too. It's certainly a transition to convert and move on from one's friends, who you may love dearly, but who are involved in things you can no longer do, or shouldn't be around. I had a year of this in between world, then got a divorce and moved. The move helped clear the board, so to speak. I met some muslim ladies when I called the local masjid and asked if there were any ladies groups. Alhamdulillah, from there I met my friends, and their friends, and through one of their husbands, met mine. Recently however I made a close non-muslim friend, and this has been nice too, and no problems being muslim or practicing muslim around her. (I am friends to all, but just from that move, all of my friends ended up being muslims.) It still gets lonely, even now, esp. being a parent. The internet has really helped connect me to people. Inshallah it will get better, and soon you'll have a nice social community.
Ummmalaak/ Aischa